Emotion Coaching History

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Emotional intelligence is one’s ability to understand and control emotions and also communicate with others about emotions. It can develop for life long by learning and experience.  It is closely connected with anger and conflict management, communicating with people and continuing it, decision-making, adapting to social events and understand what’s going on around us and responding appropriately. The development of emotional intelligence contributes to us and people around us in many aspects. Some of these benefits are as follows: 

• ·Understanding and expressing one’s own emotions
• Understanding and empathizing with others’ emotions
• Motivating oneself positively 
• Being able to make a plan for a task, set targets and concentrate 
• Sustaining social relationships in a balanced and harmonious way
• ·Finding solutions for problems over the emotions and steer the behaviours accordingly 
• Managing conflicts in a constructive and positive way

  People with High Emotional Intelligence 

• are better at making friends and sustaining their friendships in a healthy manner.
• are better at managing conflicts with co-workers.
• are better at calming themselves down in case of a tension or when they get angry. 
• are better at concentrating.a
• have higher academic achievements.
• are more likely to have stable and satisfactory relationships.
• are more like to be successful in their career.

In short, emotional intelligence is considered as a better indicator of academic and career achievements than IQ!

Emotion Coaching the theoretical basis of which was introduced by Dr. Haim Ginott was classified into parenting styles according to the ways of approaching to emotions after years of research conducted by 1 with couples. In 1997,hHe published his book “Raising an Emotionally Intelligent Child” that describes not only the methods to raise emotionally intelligent children but also its philosophy.

Gottman observed couples and parents at his lab throughout years of research and conducted his studies with more than 3000 couples. He defined three different types of parents after his interviews with parents and longitudinal studies. These are parents who are emotion coaches, parents who ignore emotions and parents who disregard. Many researchers took this approach as the basis following these two pioneers.

In Australia, Dr. Sophie Havighurst et al. developed methods that can be used for emotion coaching and explored its advantages in their studies. In the UK, the founders of EmotionCoachingUK Janet Rose, Louise Gilbert and Licette Gus applied emotion coaching as holistic approaches at schools and found that the improvement of emotional intelligence had positive outcomes in many areas such as conflict management.

Children trust their parents to help them regulate their emotions. Parents teach children to understand and regulate emotion while developing. Certain parenting styles were found to be more appropriate for this compared to the others.

Gottman and his colleagues demonstrated that there were connections between the meta-emotions of parents and their parenting styles and capability of their children to regulate their emotions. It was concluded that children learned how to express their negative emotions without resorting to violence by taking their parents as their role-models, and self-regulation. Parents who supported their children to learn at emotional moments, in another word parents who were emotion coaches less criticized their children’s emotions and behaviours.